Updated: Jun 25
Use this rule. When on a date, allow for her to talk 80% of the time.
Don’t be that guy telling her all about your job and she sitting there thinking all about how she can get out of this date.
Spark HER interests, ask HER thoughtful questions, listen. That’s how you get a 2nd and 3rd date.
Why does me talking less lead to her more interested?
Great question. Women are attracted to mystery just like they want an unpredictable love story, not to mention most guys probably talk her right out of liking them early on. You’ll be separating yourself from the other guys.
People like to talk about themselves, especially if the questions you are asking them are incredibly thoughtful. She may have a moment of realization, like wow, no guy has ever asked me that or made me feel this way. That’s what you’re looking for. You want her to be wondering at the end of the date, who is he? I feel like I didn’t really get to know him.
You don’t want her knowing your whole life story at the end of a date. That means you did too much talking. Plus, I’d much rather sit back and listen to a beautiful girl talk than the pressure of impressing her with words.
Sit back and listen.